Nola Darling: Ahead of her time or just selfish?

Okay, so I finally watched "She's Gotta Have It" and I'm still processing. Spike Lee clearly had something to say, and even though it's dated in some ways, Nola Darling...wow. Tracy Camilla Johns OWNED that role. The way she just exists, unapologetically pursuing her pleasure, is so different from most female characters, even today! I keep thinking about the dinner scene with Jamie, Mars, and Greer. The discomfort! The tension! You can feel her frustration with their expectations. And honestly, her little asides to the camera are so effective. It's like she's inviting us into her mind, but not asking for our approval. I gotta admit, there were times I was cringing. Greer was so painfully pretentious, it was almost comedic. But then Mars...Marseilles was actually really endearing, even if he was also trying to put her in a box. And Jamie? He WAS the 'nice guy' problem personified. It makes me wonder, are any of these men capable of seeing her as a whole person, outside of their own desires? I did read about the controversy around the ending. Definitely problematic. Not sure what I think about that, but it for sure left a bad aftertaste to me. I think sometimes we look back at movies like this and try to apply today's lens too heavily, and forget it was made almost 40 years ago. This was pretty groundbreaking. It explored black female sexuality in a way that I hadn't seen done before. I'm not trying to excuse the problematic parts, but I can appreciate the film for what it was trying to do. Anyone else have strong feelings about this one? What did you take away from it? I'm really curious to hear other people's perspectives. Especially on the ending! I feel like I'm missing something.